What is wisdom?
In my view, wisdom is the ability to think thoroughly by
considering broader perspectives that integrate knowledge, experiences,
understanding and insights, which can lead individuals in the right direction.
It took time for older generations to gain insights and
accumulate wisdom. If this wisdom, tried and tested, proved useful and
delivered results, we should follow it too.
We all gain new insights and personal wisdom through our
unique life experience. I am always keen to deepen my knowledge, enhance
perspectives and expand horizons. After learning valuable concepts and gaining
experiences, I incorporate these multiple perspectives into my thought process.
Through my writing, I wish to inspire my readers to grow together.
1. Mindset
matters
It is not about what happens to you, it is about how you
respond to what happens to you! Sometimes, what happens to you is out of your
control. But what is within your control is how you respond. Mindset is how
individuals perceive their world according to their values and beliefs, which
evolve and accrue as they gain knowledge and life experience. Your mindset
determines your attitude and behaviour. As such, a positive mind will give you
a positive life.
2. Less is more
“Less is More”
advocates simplicity and minimalism. The principle emphasises focusing on the
essential and avoiding unnecessary complexity.
It underscores the importance of prioritising quality over
quantity. Instead of striving for volume, success often lies in concentrating
efforts on excellent quality. Therefore, by focusing on fewer tasks, we can
concentrate on delivering quality results, leading to more profound and
impactful outcomes.
Owning fewer but truly meaningful possessions is preferable
to accumulating a surplus. This principle conveys the concept that reducing
clutter, distractions, and unnecessary elements can lead to a more meaningful
and fulfilling existence.
3. Take a step back
退一步海闊天空 is a famous Chinese
proverb I translated into “Take a step back to see a broader sky and sea”.
Sometimes, we get stuck because we are too focused on a problem. Therefore, if
we can take a few steps back, or gain a bird's-eye view, our problem will appear
smaller.
4. You cannot please everyone, give your best and no regrets
There's no universal benchmark for excellence – individuals
set their own criteria and place own demands on themselves or others according
to their own judgment, values and expectations. Frequently, you will find that
no matter how much effort you put in, some will admire what you do, some will
not. The fact is you cannot please everyone. Instead of striving to meet
others’ standards, set and follow your own. True fulfilment comes from knowing
you gave it your best and strived to achieve the best possible outcome. And harbour no regrets.
5. Focus on what you can control
Quite often things don't go our way leading to frustration
and the feeling of powerlessness. It is important to raise our awareness that
we should focus on what we can control.
Our ability to act is limited to what we can control, and while we can
influence others, accepting outcomes beyond our control makes life
significantly more manageable.
6. Go with the flow
Usually, our disappointment and frustration arise from
discrepancies between our expectations and reality. The stronger our desire for
control, the more likely we encounter disappointment or even a sense of failure
and powerlessness. Letting go of expectations about outcomes that are out of
our control will make us happier and more relaxed. Occasionally, pleasant
surprises may emerge. Indeed, it is important to enjoy the process of learning
and growth rather than focusing on the outcomes or destination.
To self-actualise our goals, one must be persistent and
persevere, armed with knowledge gained from previous mistakes. We should put
our best effort and focus on the process while accepting any outcomes.
7. The only constant is change
Many situations are temporary, although we never know how
long they will last. In this ever-changing and complex world, we need to be
aware change is natural and frequent. Individuals usually play various roles in
life and in each they demand high standards from themselves. It is a difficult
balancing act to attain one’s goals while taking care of loved ones and own
health. These complex demands can frequently get overwhelming.
To navigate changes, individuals need strong adaptability,
high emotional intelligence, resilience, flexible mindset, strong
problem-solving skills, and effective time and stress management. Those with a
closed mindset prefer staying in their comfort zone and are less ready for
change while those with a growth mindset are more ready to tackle challenges,
setbacks and adversity.
8. Keep challenging yourself leads to self-discovery and growth
Some individuals are inclined to remain within their comfort
zones to avoid taking risks and potential failures. However, daring to venture
beyond your comfort zone can lead to self-discovery and personal growth.
Without challenging your limits, you can never know your full potential.
Therefore, it is better to learn about your limitations than not try.
Individuals should cultivate a growth mindset, viewing mistakes and failures as
part of the learning process.
9. Walk with a tortoise
This is a metaphor – imagine walking with a tortoise. No
matter how rushed you are, you can’t push the tortoise to walk faster. Instead,
you accept the situation and take the opportunity to enjoy the scenery along
the path.
In certain circumstances, regardless of the urgency, you
cannot push some individuals or procedures to accelerate. Rather than
excessively stressing yourself accept the reality and redirect your attention
to enjoying or engaging in other activities.
Cultivating patience is critical as frequently we need
patience and perseverance for the best outcomes.
10. Happiness key is in your pocket
"We hold the key
to our happiness" means we are responsible for our happiness and
should not rely on others to contribute because others’ willingness and extent
of contribution are totally out of our control.
It is normal for our mood and well-being to be influenced by
external factors such as success, ideal outcomes, or relationships. Cultivating
a positive mindset can help to perceive negative events more constructively.
Besides, fostering gratitude, maintaining healthy relationships, pursuing
personal growth, and engaging in activities that we are passionate about could
bring positive emotions. All in all, individuals can boost up their emotional
well-being by enhancing self-care and self-love.
11. Let go of past hurt
Many people carry their pains or unresolved issues for the
rest of their lives. Dwelling on the past is extremely unhealthy and
counterproductive. When someone hurts you, they probably hurt you once, but
ruminating reinforces memory and will keep hurting you. Indeed, if the issues
are with your family, partner or close friend, you can consider expressing your
feelings in a bid to resolve the situation. However, if you decide not to talk
to this person anymore, finding a friend or even a therapist to talk it out can
mitigate your pain. This is easier said than done, but having this awareness is
critical – shift your attention and energy to something more valuable and
constructive.
12. Empty your cup
“Empty your cup” –
this message from Shannon Lee's "Be Water, My Friend: The True Teachings
of Bruce Lee” left a deep impression on me and has accompanied me on my
learning path ever since. This
invitation aims to illustrate the benefits of open mindedness, to show that our
mind is like a cup – when empty it can be filled with water; if not empty, it
cannot.
People with a closed mind are resistant to new ideas and
perspectives. Their minds are full of assumptions and presumptions which make
them not receptive to new information. Indeed, everyone should put effort into
listening to others’ opinions – it is a way to learn and knowing more
perspectives. The process can broaden one’s mindsets, expand their horizons and
input more perspectives into their thought process.
13. Cherish what you have
Don’t take everything for granted and be grateful! Your
desire is probably never-ending, keeping focused on what you don’t have will cause
frustrations. Indeed, pursuing possessions gives you only short-term
satisfaction, and sooner or later, new desires will emerge. Appreciate and
cherish what you have, and you will gain a sense of satisfaction.
14. Unavoidable but manageable
Accept that everyone will encounter good and bad events in
life. When we encounter good events, we feel grateful and appreciative. When we
encounter bad events, we should focus on exploring solutions and devising
strategies until we find the way out. Complaining and worrying is unproductive
and contribute no value to the situation.
15. Life is about balance
Avoid putting all eggs in one basket. To achieve contentment
and happiness, it is critical to keep balance at different stages of life.
Don’t let one or two life aspects to dominate, diversify your time and energy
to allow flexibility of choices and create various sources of fulfilment.
16. Emulate those who can save
My mum taught me, as my grandma taught her, to admire not
those who earn a lot of money, but those who can save money. According to the
wisdom of older generations, those who make huge amounts of money do not
necessarily save a lot.
Managing money and wealth wisely is a crucial concept we
must instil in the next generation. Earning money may be through your strengths
and talents in linguistics, mathematical/logical, musical, kinesthetics or
interpersonal skills.
Saving money requires intrapersonal skills, especially
self-control and self-discipline. The goal is to prioritise needs over wants,
delay gratification and avoid impulsive spending, and suggested actions are
waiting for discounts, or choosing cheaper but quality alternatives.
17. Focus on your path
Once you stop comparing yourself with others, your life will
be a lot happier. Everyone has different resources and strengths; everyone is
at a different stage of life therefore comparing yourself to others is
counterproductive and can be discouraging or even cause distress. Everyone
should focus on their path and appreciate own effort and progress.
18. Find the right place
Coaches can help individuals to explore their strengths.
Applying strengths is crucial to achieving optimal performance, enhancing
confidence and bringing satisfaction. When individuals discover their ideal
position where they can showcase their abilities and are in a place where
others recognise and value their contributions, that is when their true
brilliance shines.
Accumulating wisdom can help us to live happier and satisfied lives
A wise mind will make us happier and more relaxed. We learn
to go with the flow and understand that we may not get ideal outcomes even
despite trying hard. We cannot please everyone, but we can try our best and
have no regrets. Good and bad events happen to us randomly. We learn to
appreciate good events and while when we encounter adversity, we focus on
exploring solutions. After overcoming challenges and setbacks, we learn to
endure, be patient and become more grateful for what we have. Knowing which
areas are in our control and which are not makes our lives more manageable.
Stopping comparing ourselves with others and focusing on our own improvement
will make us a lot happier and confident; the goal is to achieve our best self.
Winner Lee
Life Coach, Mentor, Writer
The original article was published on LinkedIn on April 22, 2025.
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